I’ve invited my best half Shalom Elsy Philip to share with us the non-glamorous and the un-glittering part of motherhood from her own experience. The silent sacrifices which happen behind the scenes, a far cry from the pretty picture painted in the social media.
JSJM: Shalom, you became a mother just before you turned 29, how was it different from what you expected?
SEP: Well, it was a planned pregnancy so it didn’t come to me by surprise. I was ready for this new chapter of life. I used to come across cute baby videos and thought it would be the same. Little did I know it is far from reality and my expectations. There were difficult moments and by God’s grace I got through.
JSJM: Pregnancy vs 1st month of motherhood, which was tougher?
SEP: Pregnancy was tough and I would say 1st month of motherhood was the toughest. You are new in dealing with newborn, sleep deprivation, exhaustion, postpartum body. It really takes a toll on you.
JSJM: Apart from sleep and loss of normal physiology which other sacrifice was/is most excruciating?
SEP: Motherhood = sacrifice. The most excruciating thing was not having time for myself and not being to able to do things freely.
JSJM: 1 month old infant vs 18 month toddler which phase do you enjoy more?
SEP: Each phase of upbringing your baby has its own problems I rather prefer the 18 month toddler as she is more responsive to you, more fun and more dramas though they can bring the roof down.
JSJM: Suggestions/advise for pregnant or new mothers.
SEP: Understand that this journey will not be easy, but remember its all worth it and you are your baby’s first home. There are moments of pain, tears, exhaustion, self doubt, frustration, at the same time there are moments of love, confidence, energy,grace, strength , laughter which overpowers all. Even on the hard days we have proved ourselves worthy and capable. Just have to embrace and be patient in this journey and you will be amazed how strong you are and proud of everything that you have accomplished.
JSJM: Working mom = Wonder Woman; God’s grace is made perfect in our weakness. How do you cope?
SEP: I have a greater respect for all working mothers. Its difficult to handle the both the responsibilities at the same time. Taking one day at a time is the key. I am sure there’s not a single mother who doesn’t think of their child atleast once at their work. we feel it is impossible but you just keep going and you do the impossible. May I encourage you to pursue your dreams and motherhood should not limit you. On a lighter note you get paid twice for your work, in money and in love!
JSJM: Perhaps as fathers, we may not fully comprehend the sacrifices and the toll it takes on the mothers. But I pray that God will give us (the fathers) the grace and an understanding heart to stand by, to cherish and honour the mothers in our lives.
PS: “So go ahead and give her the credit that is due, for she has become a radiant woman, and all her loving works of righteousness deserve to be admired at the gateways of every city!”
Proverbs 31:31 TPT
Happy Mother’s day!! God bless!
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